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Sometimes I think I'm taking too much on,then I let a friend or coworker down.I guess it's bound to happen since I want to help people but sometimes don't know exactly how,then my memory being what it is or it might even be something psychological (probably),I forget,only to remember too late.Life is one Big Garden party sometimes. GOD bless
Posts: 115 | From: OHIO | Registered: Jul 2005
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I quit having friends as most be get upset if I don't return calls or always say no to going here or doing this. They don't understand whats happening with me and I quit caring. I barely got enough left to do the little things and spend time with my kids. I used to feel bad and sometimes still do cause the wifes family always asks me to do stuff and I always say no, but none of them are in my shape at my age. Keith
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Thats the hardest thing to deal with. People dont understand what you or anyone of us go thru on any given day. But they look at you and say "You look fine,how are you today?" or "You must be doing good today" Etc... Then you have to either say "Fine thank-you" or "I'm doing alright"
My family except my father cant grasp it yet still. The other day We went over and the same old stuff,my Mom just had her Knee done(replacement) and been whinning about the pain now for 9 weeks. I asked her first how she was doing and got the "Its the worst pain you can imagine" on and on. I've been doing the "I'm ok thing" for years I deal with it thats what we do,instead of complaining.
But I had enough that day and when she said "You look good I wish I felt good" I went "OFF" and told her how and what I feel everyday,the pain,headaches,etc.... She tried to stop me ,but I kept on,then after about 5mins I stopped and she said "I know how you feel because my knee and-- I said "You aint got a clue"! They can fix you! And I walked out!
But I'm leaving to go over there now for a get together (I hate them things) But will keep my mouth shut and go on. I'll tell her I love her,but wont apologize for blowning-up. Its been almost 6 1/2 yrs being DX and over 7 dealing with it before that they can figure out.
So its a pretty common thing,I have friends,not many, but I count you folks as friends and some as family.
I too have the same thing going on in my Family,Goose. Right now the only one out side of my wife and kids that really understands is my Niece. She was over in Iraq for the typical 1.5 years tour and well... let's just say we see "EYE to EYE". My mom says the same thing to me about her knees (She is OBEASE) and my dad complains that he cannot do anymore (Had A stroke). Well she is 71 and he is 75 and let's see... Um, I am 34. I too have had enough, so...
I too don't really have many friends anymore. I still keep incontact with some of them but not like before.
So there is a bond that runs deeper then Friendship or Familiy here if you ask me.
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AMEN to all the words mentioned! I count myself lucky.Thanks and GOD bless GONZOMEDIC aka SGTGUS
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My friends all watched me have 7 heart attacks at work so I was fortunate, they saw me have the stroke at work, so I didn't have to explain anything to them, when I was disagnosed with PTSD most of them already knew it or suspected it anyway, I had earned the reputation of being a "postal" worker, so I was a little bit tempermental who isn't , I don't talk with family, we had problems when Mom died in 96, so now I don't have problems, it took years to get my kids to understand call when you want to say Hi, but if you are calling for trouble, call someone else, I don't do trouble anymore. I can't handle stress of any kind, my mind and my body won't take it, so lucky for me Dori screens most of the BS out of my life. I might just make another few years.
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Hey Goose, I was having difficulty logging in and after a half dozen attempt's,I just did the whole thing over.It was probably something I wasn't doing."Gonzo" works for me,thanks Goose. GOD bless
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, I don't talk with family, we had problems when Mom died in 96, so now I don't have problems, it took years to get my kids to understand call when you want to say Hi, but if you are calling for trouble, call someone else, I don't do trouble anymore. I can't handle stress of any kind, my mind and my body won't take it, so lucky for me Dori screens most of the BS out of my life. I might just make another few years.
